My Daughter is the Mother I always wanted to be
My Daughter is an excellent Mom. It has been such a pleasure watching her experience her daughter. In the very beginning she was a bit unsure and even scared about her new role in life. It can be downright terrifying to know a little helpless soul depends on you one hundred percent of the time. Gone are the days when she could sleep in endlessly and so soundly that a super sonic boom couldn’t wake her.
We have had the pleasure (and frustration) of having my daughter and her boyfriend live with us since before their daughter Claire was born. She will soon be three years old. The pleasure has been seeing everyone grow and mature into their new roles, new parents and new grandparents.
Instinctively my Daughter breastfed Claire until Claire decided she didn’t need it any more. Two years, which is two years longer than I would have guessed Mom would breastfeed. Mom also held Claire any time she needed, for as long as she needed. Contrary to popular belief that you will spoil the child by giving into their demand to be held. As a result, Claire didn’t cry or fuss much. Her needs were met very competently by her Mom, Dad, Grandma and Grandpa. It truly does take a village to raise a child, especially if the village is intent on giving the child a solid foundation of love.
I’m not implying it was easy for my Daughter to be the type of Mom Claire needed 24/7. There were many times Mom was frustrated and fed up. But as she put it herself, “What choice do I have? Claire needs me and I made the decision to be there for her.” What if we all made that decision for each other? What a different world this would be.
Claire at nearly three years old has never been hit, spanked or screamed at. Today she is very confident and happy. She knows what she wants and is determined to work through whatever she needs to, to accomplish her goal yet she isn’t spoiled. She is guided very expertly in what behaviours are acceptable. When playing with others she is very considerate, compassionate and kind.
I have seen with my own eyes and heart that giving a baby everything they need in the way of food, attention and comfort when they need it and for however long they need, creates a stable and confident little human, opposed to what we have been taught forever. I am so grateful my Daughter followed her instincts never caring what the rest of the world thought. We have Claire to show for it. The love of our life.
What do you think makes a great Mom?